1. im not very self confident but am trying to work on it, so i stutter sometimes when im nervous so im not sure if just coming out and saying it would work, seeing as there is a lot i feel i need to say.
2. his popular sort-of friends are in all of them, so its going to be very hard to get his attention without attracting unwanted-and very rude-ears.
3. i was told to send a note but that seems awkward and i don't want it to seem like a date, i want to go 'as friends'...
4. i have NEVER done this before, and no guy has ever asked me except once in middle school, so im extra nervous and feel im not popular enough, though my popular friend told me it would be cute for us 2 go together.
~How should I go about this? any success stories?Please help guys advice??plz i need answers i need to go to sleep soon!?
Use some one as a middle to introduce you guys together. That wouldnt make it so akward and give you a boost of confidince because you have help.
Also act like a friend and act friendly... be yourself and the only way to not get so nervous if you remind yourself that you are who you are and proud of it!!!Please help guys advice??plz i need answers i need to go to sleep soon!?
im sort of in asimilar situation... but i just want to plainly talk to this one girl.. anyway.. i was told ask her about homework or talk about something random... music or somethin.. just get a conversation goin. hopefully that'll grab his attention and ask him AFTER class when his friends r gone. mayb ask him to go get food with you. and trust me a way to a man's heart is with FOOD!
first off its okay to be very nervous about asking a guy out anywhere espically if you have never done it before. believe me i am as shy as they come and i stutter too in front of my entire class sometimes thats how shy i am. so dont worry about it. now as for asking this guy to the dance with you, maybe you should quietly get his attetion and ask if you could talk to him after class one day. if u dont want him to know u like him make a casual deal out of the whole thing and ask if he wants to hang out at the dance with you, or go with u as a friend because you couldnt get another date or something. when u ask him try not to act too nervous if you dont want him to know u like him. as for the popularity thing, popularity is simply a word. there are kids that are more well known than others and kids who are not so well known. don't let a thing like that get in the way of your happiness. and if ur friend is too popular to go to dance with u then he might not be the best friend you could have.
How about telling him you'd like to speak with him after class? And then, hopefully, you would have a moment ALONE and just ask him.....you do not want to go overboard on your reasons for asking him....he is your friend and will respond honestly. Good Luck and let us know what happens!!!! (P.S. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking a guy out....a date, even with a friend, is legal!)
forget about it .... besides this is nothing but peer pressure and if he says no, this will destroy the little self esteem that you have. it is not worth the risk.
I think you should ask him out... you only live once. You never know he might like you allot too, you will never know until you ask him out. Most relationships start off awkward, and then the blossom into something great.
You know think about the worst thing that can happen, he says no.. or worse.. he might say yes... What do you think? You never know until you ask him out.
You know asking someone out doesn't have to be a date, it could be an invitation to spend time with you and to get you know you better. Thinking about this is putting more pressure on you than you need.
Speaking on behalf of a shy person that I once was, it gets easier just confront your fears, it gets easier the more you do it.
Good luck...
just tell him how you fill ask him out
It's easy for me to say, but do not think of your stuttering....Alot of people do,
It will go away..truly, if you do not think about it, when you are trying to speak.
I would ask him, after one of the classes are over, if you could speak to him for a moment. Since he is somewhat of a friend, I am sure he will stay in the classroom for a few minutes to hear what you want to say or ask.
Go for it!!! I know you will be okay!!! Just ask, I would like you to join us....... the name of your popular friend etc....., don't get me wrong.........., not a date....Just would be great if you came with us. try that.....
Be confident......if you can type like this, you can talk.......Really!!!!
Proud of you.
Have fun!!!
In one of the classes you are in with him, either just mention that you have to talk to him after class, or write a note saying that. Say or write, that you need to talk to him about something...have him come to your locker or catch up with him after school, sometime when no one else is around. Even ask him to grab something to eat, anything to talk to him when no one is around. Then just ask him, say i wanted to know if you wanted to go to the dance with me. Ask that part in person, it will help you build yourself confidence and practice for the future, after you do it whether he says yes or no you will feel good that you got up the courage to ask, and that is great. Good luck!
Send him a note saying: ';I just want to ask you something. Would you meet with me alone so I can get your answer?'; His curiousity may get him to agree to your request and keep others aware so you can ask him without others around. When you are alone with him, just be yourself and ask your question just like you would ask one of your friends.
just ask him...you shouldn't care what other people think. if you want to go 'as friends,' then make it clear to him after he accepts. your main fear seems to be rejection, not what others think. if he has a problem answering in front of his friends, maybe you might be able to catch him alone later.
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