Ah Help/Advice Anyone?

hm,


i consider myself shy


i am so shy its so retarted at times


like when it comes to talking to people on myspace or anywhere else


i seem to be okay and i talk so much


but then when it comes face to face


i am soooooo shy ]:


i barely talk and dont make eye contact


unless its with my really close friends


i need help


i want to learn how not to be shy


so i can be outgoing and meet more people


theres this guy i want to talk to


i have talked to him on myspace


and he goes to my school


but we have never talked face to face


and i want to go say hi to him but im too scared











any advice on how to stop being shy?








thanks[:Ah Help/Advice Anyone?
just realize that what you have to say is equally important as anyone else, if they think they're better than you, **** 'emAh Help/Advice Anyone?
That's a choice your going to make on your own. Now you can buy all the tapes, books, and CD's about being social and outgoing but it's all going to depend on how you want to act toward people. You have to have this '; I don't give a ****'; attitude. What I suggest you start doing is when you see the guy just look at him straight in the eye and greet him when he walks by. Believe me guys love getting attention from the girls...you will make his day! ;-)





E-mail me if you want to talk more about it.
AHA u sound exactly like me. Well the past.





Being shy isn't so bad. I actually met my partner playin an online game. She likes my shyness.





Eventually I learned to be comfortable with her and talk like no other. I kinda learned how to talk to people a lot better cuz of her.





Im sure u have one or few people you can go crazy with. This is how I was, if not, goin crazy alone/online:D





Personally I don't think u can just get rid of all your shyness. Some people are just more social than others. Its not better or worse.





But if you still want to, face your fears:P Take speech classes, keep trying to approach people.
Go to any ballroom dancing club/class, EVERYBODY will be shy and the instructors know this , so they go real slow, but soon you learn to dance with strangers and you will feel more confident as the weeks go by, and that is what you will gain , confidence!


Give it a shot
hey. i was like this. well the only way is to take risks and just to learn by experience its not that bad. myspace is easy to talk to people cuz its not personal. just go do it


nothing bad will happen i promise just try it and go say hi. make a promise to yourself!
well being shy is really a just a fear, of what you think the people will think or say about you. this is just a fear same as being afraid or heights or water. the best way to over come such a fear is as you may have heard before. to kill a fear, is to face the fear. but when you do come up to some one to talk have courage and you will do fine. being shy I guess you could say it is a way to tend not to get hurt, embarrassed, or made fun of, by the people you meet. so you are shy. because you use this shyness as a defense against such a things. for if you never talk to them, you know you will never have such a problem to worry about. this is how your mind feels. but I can tell you that it is not always that way. I was once a shy type of person. and I can tell you why you feel brave talking to people on myspace, a chat room or even on the phone. it is because you are not there in front of them talking. think about this, a kid could talk to a cop on a phone as to even get angry and argue with the cop. but face to face this kid will never even try such a thing. so in a way you feel safe being in another place. but being shy is not what you are fighting. what you are looking for is courage to face this. understand, I came to the point that I felt as if I did not care what any one ever thought about me. that is how you are going to see things if you need to pull threw this. this is how I see other people. if they do not like me, I do not care. if they do, I will try and do anything I can for them. when you walk up to some one do it with a smile on your face, this will tend to make them feel at ease. as to also make you feel better toward them as you will not have a need to feel shy. a smile can do a lot more than you think. if you always smile you may find that some people may walk up to you to talk. sorry, but this is the best way I could think of to explain this. but you need to try or you will always be say. face your fear.