Well, you are right about one thing. You are an asshole
There is no magic wand to be waved to make this ok. You're just going to have to face up to what you did and take the consequences.
I fear you have now lost two friends. Last night. Need help, advice...please....
Okay, you can't add any more alcohol into the equation. Until things can be sorted out, take a break from each other and give each other space. First, talk about your feelings with one another. Be honest and sincere. Just get it all out in the open so there are no more misunderstandings or secrets. See if the situtation has cleared up any. If not, you will have to part ways and find other people. Sorry...
Good luck!
';i would never want to get in the way of their relationship';
But last night you did.
Talk to her about it. If she is unhappy in her current relationship then maybe her and her girlfriend should talk about that. But you should take a step back and stop drinking around her (Hehehe). Let the two of them work out their issues.
And another thing. Stop beating yourself up. We all make mistakes. Don't call yourself an asshole.
Good luck!
here's something to think on
'' we have had feelings for each other for awhile''
'' we have somewhat explored them before''
'' she has a girlfriend''
'' her girlfriend is a good friend of mine''
'' I would never want to get in the way of their relationship''
'' I do not do things like this''
If you didn't want to come between them why explore?
omg talk to her and see what well happen the next couple of days are going to be a test if your friendship can handle that I don't know.. I really feel for her she is in a difficult situation right now. You are her friend right now the best thing you can do is be her friend. Try not to let emotions get involved for a while..
I agree with Clementi, you should take a break from each other. Let your friend know that you feel horrible for putting her in this situation and then explain that you're going to step aside and let her figure her own stuff out. Don't put any pressure on her, cuz she doesn't need that. It's not going to be easy for you, so find some other friends to hang out with for a while. Good luck to both of you.
The only one that you need to be asking this to is her. You both did it and you need to figure out what to do about it together. In a completely sober situation.
Ha. Take responsibility for your actions and realize that the other person is a cheater. And once a cheater, always a cheater. So don't feel bad for either of the other two.
stop beating yourself up you cant help the way you feel but both of you should talk about what is going on and how you both feel
stop drinking and making excuses. be honest and tell them both how you feel about the situation.
i don't really understand but i know u should fix this not us i know u need help but u should know what is right to do!! SORRY I CANT HELP U
maybe talk things through
WOW.....Don't sweat it accidents happen when there is liquor involved....so just make sure it doesn't happen again.....if the 2 of you already have feelings for each other this could of just added more feelings and emotions on both sides.....you really need to confront her and see if maybe the tears are more than just this all being a huge mistake......even though they love each other doesn't mean they have to stay together if they are not getting along it may be best for them to end it now before it is to late and if and when you are all ready to discuss this together keep it on the DL since it probably wouldn't of happened if alcohol wasn't involved....don't feel guilty you may of opened a new can of worms which may be a good thing or a bad thing.
Well, you two should start off by taking a break from each other...take some time to calm down, recover from the shock, and give her space. This is really HER decision to make. If you guys have feelings for each other, this is harder for HER because she has a lot to think about. So just give her her space. Make sure that she didn't just sleep with you because things are rough with her girl. That's probably another issue she needs to think over.
So, yes, give her some space and recovery time. She might tell her girlfriend what happened or she will break up with her...or she will act like it never happened, which I know would hurt you. But make sure you don't pressure her to make any moves. This is about her.
Good luck and message me if you need anyone!
I had the same thing happen once. We spent a day or two apart, then met for coffee to discuss. At the end of the day, the ball is kind of in her court, since she's the one in the relationship.
At the end of the day, you don't want her to leave her girlfriend for you - it will only create feelings of resentment in the long run. All you can do now is remind her that you're friends, and leave her the space to make whatever desicion she needs to make for herself.
Don't make it akward. It won't be if you don't let it. Good luck. Just so you know, the person this happened to me with stayed with their partner, and we stayed friends. And that worked out best for us!
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